I have been noticing some strange trends in how people talk about motherhood lately. I am troubled by the generic quality ascribed to motherhood, as if all mothers were the same, as if motherhood obscured and rendered unimportant every other facet of life and personality. “Mother” is a relational term, not a broad identity. Upon … More Somebody’s Mother vs. Generic-Mama-Hive-Mind.
There is often a lack of positive attention toward the body in evangelical parlance. Our attitude toward our bodies is primarily constructed in terms of what we should not do, rather than what we should, or why we should or should not act in a given way. We know, for example, that we should not overemphasize … More Finitude and Physicality.
Since Mothers’ Day is this coming weekend, I naturally have to write about how much I dislike the holiday. I have a wonderful mother and mother-in-law, and many other family friends and aunties who have been kind to and interested in me. I have no qualms about celebrating these individuals. But the day itself is still … More Mothers’ Day 2.0: Politeness, Feminism, and other sundry thoughts.
Medical ethics is a hot topic in my world these days. What do we do when our bodies rebel? Who decides what we, and others acting in our interests, are permitted to do in response to our inconvenient bodies? This morning I was doing some online reading, and found this article about physician assisted suicide. … More Inconvenient bodies.
There are lots of people in the Bible I’m not sure I like. Of course, there are the obvious villains that it is acceptable to dislike: you’ve got your Ahabs and Manassehs and Pilates and Judases and such. There are some “good guys” in the Bible though, that I’m not sure I’d like if I … More Second Attempt at a Sermon: Luke 3 (Third Sunday of Advent).
INTRODUCTION I hate snakes. I have always attributed my dislike for snakes to an ancient grudge, given voice in the book of Genesis – where God himself addresses the serpent: “I will put enmity between you and the woman, between your offspring and hers.” We think we know this story – A man and a … More Genesis 3: How did we get here? My first attempt at a sermon.
I had been doing better. I think the stress of change – school starting with its new responsibilities and deadlines – has diminished my resiliency somewhat, added to which a persistent fear of academic and personal failure has dogged me since I first found myself unable to continue with full-time classes a few years back. It has … More A kind of relapse.
I was talking to my husband today about theological truth and timing. The gist of the conversation was that while the truth doesn’t stop being true, some true statements are unhelpful or inappropriate at certain times. If I happen upon someone sobbing as the result of personal tragedy, it might not be the best time … More Truth & timing: in defense of silence. And also a long sidebar about feelings.
When you have a long-term struggle, it can be hard on the people you care about and who care about you. The unresolved nature of infertility, I think, can make people uncomfortable, and I think that sometimes they blame me for their discomfort, or need to control my feelings about dealing with infertility to soothe … More Loud silences, loud statements: In which I rant a little.
It is ridiculous that we are expected, or expect ourselves, to maintain our appearances as if time did not touch them as it passes. I hate the chatter about celebrities’ “post-baby” bodies and exercise regimes. Women are judged by the relative length of time it takes for them to erase all evidence of pregnancy and … More Decoration.